Anonymous asked: Do you think an intelligent woman is more or less attractive than a dumb one?
So let me start off first by saying that I don’t think attractive is the right word choice here; as the degree to which I find someone attractive is a multi-layered determination that is based on a number of varying and distinct attributes all of which work cohesively together to negatively or positively affect how appealing I find someone to be. More to that point, there are a number of people that I have talked to, both from this and other sites, that have shared some of my sexual interests that I, for whatever reason, failed to connect with, and that I found unattractive based purely on that basis. Now that is not to say that they were intelligent or unintelligent; as things never progressed to a point where their intellectual capabilities really came into the picture. Rather they just lacked that certain intangible quality that was needed for us to effectively communicate with one another. (And with all relationships: communication tends to be one of the most central elements in regards to how attracted you are to someone.)
Additionally, a person’s perceived intelligence is generally tied to their particular interests and/or areas of expertise, and so that type of an evaluation may provide differing results depending on the subject matter involved with that particular determination. For example, I know nothing about make-up or other feminine beauty products. Obviously I have rather strong opinions in regards to a woman’s appearance, but I have no idea how to apply make-up, what makes one particular product better than another, or how to properly mix different products together to obtain the type of aesthetic that I personally find appealing. Now if I really wanted to figure it out: I could research it and probably get some feel for the whole art behind being pretty. However, as a man there is no real reason for me to acquire that kind of knowledge, and as of right now if you were to try and engage me in a conversation in regards to that particular subject: I would not have much to say. A situation that might lead some people to perceive me as being unintelligent.
So with all of that said, what I think you are really trying to ask here is, “How do you like women you are involved with to be outwardly perceived in regards to their intelligence, and do you prefer women that are naturally somewhat dimwitted or do you want a woman that just acts dumb in certain ways in part for your benefit?”
Assuming this is what you meant, the answer here is that I am generally attracted to girls that well… act like girls. More specifically, bubbly little girls that need someone, something of a Father figure if you will, to reassure and guide them in their lives. I find women that are somewhat giggly in terms of their personality to be rather attractive; as to me it seems very youthful. I also enjoy educating and providing instruction, and so in that context if you come across as being inexperienced and a bit naïve: it tends to bring those instincts out a bit more in regards to how I act towards you. As I said before, in some ways it develops into something of a paternal bond, and that leads me to want to protect you and help you make decisions; both of which I consider mainstays of any proper D/s or M/s dynamic. (It just so happens that I also want to fuck your brains out as well… which, generally speaking, is not an aspect of most paternal relationships.)
Now as I said earlier, effective communication is a key to any relationship, and so accordingly I need anyone I am involved with to be able to understand why certain ideas and fantasies turn me on. Furthermore, I want them to be able to add their own thoughts in conjunction with those to make things more exciting. For example, I really enjoy talking dirty: so I need a woman or women that can manage to do that while I am using them, and that can actively participate and add to our mutual enjoyment of a particular thought line that we might be exploring together. In general, as much as I may turn you on with my different erotic thoughts and desires, you should be capable of doing the same, at least to some degree, in return.
In summary, I like women that are smart enough to understand what it is that I desire, and that can then use whatever intelligence they have to satisfy my needs. If someone is so dumb that they cannot manage that… then really what good are they to me? Even if your body is amazing and you are willing to do whatever I want: in the end that by itself just is not good enough. This is especially true when it comes to sex; an activity which ideally should be both mentally and physically stimulating. In essence, I need to be able to own, use, and derive pleasure from all of you, and your brain is an essential part of you being able to effectively please me. So while I may enjoy the fact that you act like a dumb ditzy little girl at points: there needs to be some depth behind that façade to truly keep me interested in the long run.